Many friends who say that they are difficult to express themselves (say opinions, feelings, aspirations, anger, annoyance, etc.) to others, never even share the information if not asked / questioned. The interesting thing is they recognize that these conditions are very uncomfortable and tend to make them shunned by colleagues or even his own family members. While on the one hand they feel hesitant and afraid to express themselves, but on the other hand they feel that it is necessary to relieve themselves.
express themselves or tell stories or “self disclosure” can be interpreted as giving information about yourself to others. The information provided may include things such as life experiences, feelings, emotions, opinions, ideals, and so forth. Self-disclosure should be based on honesty and openness in providing information, or in other words what is communicated to others should not be a personal mask or lie, so just show the good side.
why someone needs to tell someone else about himself, then it should be viewed as a cycle involving 3 (three) things that self-expression, friendship and self-acceptance. one is a very good thing if you say to friends or others who interact with you how they can affect you. By expressing feelings and sharing experiences will be further strengthening of friendly relations.
Acceptance friend or someone else will be easy for you to be able to accept the condition yourself. Because you have to accept yourself and feel comfortable with these conditions, then you are much easier to express themselves so that the relationship with your friends even more fun.
Although he admitted that the disclosure itself is very important for the development of the individual, but some people are still reluctant to do so. Basically, individuals’ reluctance or difficulty in expressing themselves more based on risk factors would receive at a later date, in addition to not having a sense of security and self confidence. Risk is meant to be leaking information that has been given to the person to a third party when such information is considered highly personal by the giver of information, or it could be precisely the information conveyed to offend other people so that they can interfere with interpersonal relationships already well established. Also expression of the people or the wrong conditions it will be a boomerang for the giver of information. In addition to risk factors, parenting factors also play an important role. In the family or environment that does not support the spirit of openness and information sharing habit will be difficult for individuals to express themselves appropriately. That is why some people are very difficult to share information with others, even if such information is very positive for themselves and others. self disclosure (which is done right) is an indication of one’s mental health.
the benefits of self-disclosure is
1. Increasing self-awareness (self-awareness). In the process of providing information to others, you will be more clear in assessing the needs, feelings, and psychological things in you. In addition, other people will help you in understanding your own self, through the various inputs are given, especially if it is done with empathy and honesty.
2. Building a closer relationship and a deep, mutual help and more meaningful to both parties. Openness is a reciprocal relationship, the more you are open to others then others will do the same thing. Of openness that will arise from the belief that both parties will eventually intertwined relationship of true friendship.
3. Develop communication skills that enable a person to inform a thing to others in a clear and complete information about how he looked at a situation, how he felt about it, what happened, and what to expect.
4. Reduce shame and enhance self-acceptance (self acceptance). If other people can accept you then chances are you can accept yourself.
5. Resolve conflicts and interpersonal problems. If someone else knows your needs, fears, your frustrations, etc., it will be easier for them to sympathize or provide help to match what you expect.
6. Obtain additional energy and become more spontaneous. Please note that to keep a secret a lot of energy required and in such circumstances a person will more quickly angry, tense, quiet and not cheerful.

Many friends who say that they are difficult to express themselves (say opinions, feelings, aspirations, anger, annoyance, etc.) to others, never even share the information if not asked / questioned. The interesting thing is they recognize that these conditions are very uncomfortable and tend to make them shunned by colleagues or even his own family members. While on the one hand they feel hesitant and afraid to express themselves, but on the other hand they feel that it is necessary to relieve themselves.

express themselves or tell stories or “self disclosure” can be interpreted as giving information about yourself to others. The information provided may include things such as life experiences, feelings, emotions, opinions, ideals, and so forth. Self-disclosure should be based on honesty and openness in providing information, or in other words what is communicated to others should not be a personal mask or lie, so just show the good side.

Why someone needs to tell someone else about himself, then it should be viewed as a cycle involving 3 (three) things that self-expression, friendship and self-acceptance. one is a very good thing if you say to friends or others who interact with you how they can affect you. By expressing feelings and sharing experiences will be further strengthening of friendly relations.

Acceptance friend or someone else will be easy for you to be able to accept the condition yourself. Because you have to accept yourself and feel comfortable with these conditions, then you are much easier to express themselves so that the relationship with your friends even more fun.

Although he admitted that the disclosure itself is very important for the development of the individual, but some people are still reluctant to do so. Basically, individuals’ reluctance or difficulty in expressing themselves more based on risk factors would receive at a later date, in addition to not having a sense of security and self confidence. Risk is meant to be leaking information that has been given to the person to a third party when such information is considered highly personal by the giver of information, or it could be precisely the information conveyed to offend other people so that they can interfere with interpersonal relationships already well established. Also expression of the people or the wrong conditions it will be a boomerang for the giver of information. In addition to risk factors, parenting factors also play an important role. In the family or environment that does not support the spirit of openness and information sharing habit will be difficult for individuals to express themselves appropriately. That is why some people are very difficult to share information with others, even if such information is very positive for themselves and others. self disclosure (which is done right) is an indication of one’s mental health.

The benefits of self-disclosure is

1. Increasing self-awareness (self-awareness). In the process of providing information to others, you will be more clear in assessing the needs, feelings, and psychological things in you. In addition, other people will help you in understanding your own self, through the various inputs are given, especially if it is done with empathy and honesty.

2. Building a closer relationship and a deep, mutual help and more meaningful to both parties. Openness is a reciprocal relationship, the more you are open to others then others will do the same thing. Of openness that will arise from the belief that both parties will eventually intertwined relationship of true friendship.

3. Develop communication skills that enable a person to inform a thing to others in a clear and complete information about how he looked at a situation, how he felt about it, what happened, and what to expect.

4. Reduce shame and enhance self-acceptance (self acceptance). If other people can accept you then chances are you can accept yourself.

5. Resolve conflicts and interpersonal problems. If someone else knows your needs, fears, your frustrations, etc., it will be easier for them to sympathize or provide help to match what you expect.

6. Obtain additional energy and become more spontaneous. Please note that to keep a secret a lot of energy required and in such circumstances a person will more quickly angry, tense, quiet and not cheerful.

By sharing information on things will be lost or diminished by itself.

For the friends who have trouble expressing themselves to others, there are 4 (four) steps you can do to self-expression can be run effectively:

(1) Ask yourself, how far I will open up? What things can I share with others and to whom?

(2) Make preparations before opening up / storytelling. First overcome anxiety and fear you.

(3) Improve on your skills in expressing themselves. Learn the ways to express yourself and how to provide useful input.

(4) Express yourself appropriately to the timing and the right situation as well.

Given human nature as social beings and by looking at the benefits that would be obtained if one can express themselves properly, then there is no other option for individuals other than learning to express themselves. The inability to express themselves will be very detrimental mental development of the individual concerned. Nevertheless, the decision to open up and share information with others should be done carefully and wisely.

That in fact there is a risk that must be incurred if someone dared to reveal myself to others, for example, manipulated the information given by the recipient information, or even betrayed by those who are trusted, would not be denied. However, in ways that wise and good planning then it will be reduced. If the equation is taken away then the same disclosure to fall in love: there are risks but it is very difficult to refuse.





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